To some people, what they consider to be their home, isn’t really much of a home at all – it’s just somewhere they happen to sleep. Perhaps they rent the place and won’t stay there for long. In fact, they don’t stay there for long as it is now –once they’ve woken up, gotten showered and dressed, they’re out of there until late at night, when they simply do the reverse – undress, shower and then sleep. Hardly what we mean when we talk about ‘our home’.
On the other hand, a real home should be the comfiest and coziest place imaginable – a place where everything is soft, smells fresh and great and is full of creature comforts. A real home is where you wake up and don’t want to go out, where you want to go if you feel sick or lonely and the place that makes you feel safe.
Sometimes, in our adult wisdom, we do quite well at forgetting that, and find ourselves briefly seduced by minimalist or futuristic ‘homes’ which are suspiciously cold, esthetically, like laboratories. As home makers, no longer nomadic hunter-gatherers, it’s up to us to transform such places into ones we’d like to stick around in, and there are several ways to go about it.
Let’s start from the bottom and work our way up, shall we? The flooring of your home is perhaps more important than you think. If you don’t mind that people trample dirt they picked up outside on the streets all over the floors of your home, you’re hardly encouraging people to become connected to it. Have your family and guests take off their shoes in an area with ceramic tiling which is easy to clean and gives a kind of sterile nod and a wink to newcomers. You can put out clean house slippers for guests who don’t want to walk around barefoot or in their socks.
If you are planning on walking around barefoot, it would be criminal to not make use of a plush, super-soft carpet that makes you want to curl up and sleep on it. This only maintains its effectiveness, however, if you are fastidious about keeping it clean. Get yourself a steam cleaner from Steam Insider and make sure you use it regularly.
You can put down different flooring in different areas of your home, but bear in mind that nobody has, as yet, ever been caught pining for the hardwood floor of their dining room. Hardwood is great for pets and guests, carpets love people.
Curtains are a bit like carpets, too. Homely ones are thicker and softer. They look like they’ll protect you and hide you if someone you don’t like the look of knocks at your door. At the opposite end of the spectrum, and in league with hard floors, we find blinds. Blinds are cold, clinical and aloof. You don’t bother them, they don’t bother you. They don’t want to know about your feelings. Your relationship is strictly practical.
Perhaps the biggest difference between a mere living space and a home is highlighted by the role of the bed. In a living space, the bed might be raised up, or pushed to one side. It might be collapsible when not in use in order to free up space. In a purely functional space, the bed makes way when not in use.
In a home, on the other hand, the bed takes center stage. Even when it’s not being used, it lies there in the center of the room, covered with lush pillows and silky duvets, seemingly getting bigger and bigger and enticing you to jump in it. In a real home you can do much more than sleep on your bed. It’s where you study, read, watch TV, chat on the phone, play games, daydream, relax, cool off and chill out. A real bed should have far too many pillows, cushions and soft toys on it that it’s impossible to sleep on it without half of them ending up on the floor. But you don’t feel bad about it, because the floor is carpeted, and that’s super soft. You can sleep anywhere in your home.